Acceptance is life changing

acceptance

[ak-sep-tuh ns]

noun

  1. the act of taking or receiving something offered.

  2. favorable reception; approval; favor.

  3. the act of assenting or believing:

I am OBSESSED with acceptance; it has been completely transforming for me.

This acceptance journey started when one day I just thought to myself: I am so darn tired of fighting against all the negative things in my life. I am tired of fighting against myself, body, my mind, and my feelings. I am so tired of the NO; I am going to just radically accept every single moment as it comes.

Acceptance has helped me to live in the moment with ease. Now I am not living in the future, with an attitude of dread, fear or negativity. When something negative happens to me I say “Yes, this is happening” which gives me the opportunity to pause and analyze what is happening in my life. Then I can take an action to rectify the problem, instead of reacting out of a place of negativity.

denial

[dih-nahy-uhl]

noun

  1. an assertion that something said, believed, alleged, etc., is false: Despite his denials, we knew he had taken the purse. The politician issued a denial of his opponent's charges.

  2. refusal to believe a doctrine, theory, or the like.

  3. disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing.

Dr Gabor Mate has a quote from his book “When the Body Says No” it goes like this: Never doubt the toxic power of denial and positive thinking.

Often when I am in pain the first thought that crosses my mind is NO. Fear and dread fills me, my body tenses and the negative pain cycle is perpetuated.

I had been stuck in this zone of suppressing my true self, my symptoms and issues while using positive thinking to try and make myself feel better. Thoughts like “Hey, this isn’t so bad, I can handle this! I just gotta keep going!” Then I would over do it and push myself way over my limits. I did this over and over on a never ending negative loop.

Saying “YES” to our experience is a powerful way to move through life. It wasn’t until I went to a pain clinic and had a very thorough assessment of all my treatments that I accepted my IC/PBS. It was like a weight was lifted off me, I had done everything possible to help myself. I didn’t need to fight any more. I could give up my search and destroy mission, and go back to enjoying life and exploring other things.

The truth is that I haven’t given up trying to help myself, but my efforts are within the constructs of Abhyasa and Vairagya. I have also had much healing occur after I came to acceptance. It isn’t about giving up, it’s about saying YES instead of NO.

There is an art to acceptance and it helps to have a guide. A friend told me about a book called “Radical Acceptance embracing your life with the heart of a Buddha” By Tara Brach

This book is very highly regarded and is widely available. Tara Brach is also very prolific and has many wonderful resources available. https://www.tarabrach.com/